Two Kinds Of Perfect (One Kills, The Other Heals)

Two Kinds Of Perfect (One Kills, The Other Heals)

There are two ways of understanding "perfect" and seeing the difference between the two may help you like it's helped me. 

First, there's the Greek idea of perfect which means flawlessness. It's the Greek version of perfect that you and I tend to obsess over.

We want an A, not a B. (Actually, we want an A+; what kind of loser only gets an A?) 

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Hope For People Pleasers (Like Me)

Hope For People Pleasers (Like Me)

Dear Fear-Of-What-Others-Think,

I am sick of you and it’s time we broke up.  I know we’ve broken up and gotten back together about a bazillion times, but seriously, Fear-Of-What-Others-Think (or FOWOT, for short), this is it.  We’re breaking up. Because I’m tired of over-thinking my status updates on Facebook, trying to sound more clever, funny, important.  And I’m tired of wondering which Tweets might drive the most traffic to my blog, as though my value as a human being were truly numerical.

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How To Keep From Drowning In The Details

How To Keep From Drowning In The Details

I’ve been noticing a pattern in my life and I wonder if it’s true for you, too:

The less margin I have, the more my best self gets pushed to the margins.

In other words, the less time, energy, money, heart/head space, and sleep I have, the more my weaknesses flare up and take over. I completely forget about my strengths, lose sight of my unique design, and start trying desperately to be someone I’m not.

For example, I have very little administrative muscle. It’s not a big part of my natural wiring or professional training. My DISC profile reads something like, “Yeah, maybe you should just try to hang out around people who actually know how to get things done, and then maybe – and we’re not making any promises here – you might get a few things done, too.”

The point is I’m bad with details.

But when the margin starts to bleed out of my life (often because of my being bad with details), I try to stop the bleeding by attending to more tiny tasks, getting lost in the minutiae (a word I had to spell check), and drowning in the details.

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Why "WWJD?" Is A Terrible Question

Why "WWJD?" Is A Terrible Question

Okay, maybe not terrible. But definitely not helpful. At least not for me. And not for a lot of other Jesus-followers I know.

WWJD? (What Would Jesus Do?) was all the rage back in the 90s. It was inspired by a book written early in the 1900s that told the fictional story of people who encountered a need or challenge and asked themselves “What would Jesus do?”. They then responded as they deemed appropriate.

In the book, it changed the whole town everyone lived in. Pretty inspiring stuff. A few decades later, however, the question morphed into a wristband.

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The Key To Escaping The Comparison Trap

The Key To Escaping The Comparison Trap

I have a hard time not comparing myself to others and feel like a loser.

I look at Facebook and notice how the people in my feed are living bigger adventures, driving better cars, and going on exotic vacations where they take perfect selfies with their perfect abs against the backdrop of a perfect sunset.

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